Know Yourself, Know Each Other
There are 9 ways of seeing the world.
The Enneagram isn't a box that labels you — it's a mirror that helps you understand why you do what you do, and why the people you love are different. No type is better than another. We each just have a different "filter."
Tip: There are no right answers. Pick what's true most of the time, not who you wish you were.
✨ Who you are
💗 What's underneath
🌧️ Where you get stuck
💭 What people misunderstand
🤝 How to connect better
Not quite you? You know yourself best — tap another number to explore it.
With a Friend
⏱ about 10 minutes
Pair up with a friend. Take turns — you won't get to all of these, so pick the ones you care about most.
Share your type. Given everything you read about it, what feels most true for you? Is there anything that doesn't quite fit how you see yourself?
What other number do you also see in yourself? How does it show up? (You know yourself best — the quiz is just a starting point.)
Finish this sentence for your friend: “When I'm stressed, I tend to ______. When you see me do that, what actually helps me is ______.”
Finish: “Something I appreciate about how YOUR type shows up in our friendship is ______.”
If your type were a snack, an emoji, and a song — what would they be?
What's the most “so me” thing you've done this week?
Which type would be your dream travel buddy? Which would be total chaos with you?
Whose type in our friend group surprised you the most?
Mom & Daughter
⏱ about 15 minutes
Sit with your mom or daughter. This one goes a little deeper. Take turns — pick the ones you care about most; you may not get to them all.
Share your types with each other. Then take turns: “Is there anything you learned about yourself today — or in your friend breakout — that you want me to know about you?”
Take turns, and be honest: “Considering everything we've learned today, what do you need more of — or less of — from me?” (Your “what you need to hear” line is a good place to start.)
Read each other the “How to connect better” tip for your type. Pick one thing you'll each try this month.
Each finish two sentences: “One thing I understand about you a little better now is ______.” and “One thing I appreciate about you is ______.”
Where do your two types naturally bump heads? Where do they fit together beautifully? (Different isn't wrong — it's often exactly what the other one needs.)
Before today, what type would you have guessed each other were? How close was it?
What's the most “so you” thing the other one does? (Loving roast — keep it kind!)
Which family member is SO obviously which type? Debate it.
Mom: what type do you think you were as a teenager — same as now, or different?
Be kind to your type — and to hers.
Your personality formed when you were little, to help you feel safe and loved. It's a gift and the place you get stuck. Every type has both. When you understand that, you can give yourself grace — and give the people you love grace too.
Take a screenshot of your type so you remember it. This month, notice your type showing up — and try that one thing you and your mom or daughter picked.
Run of Show & QR Code
Have the girls scan this to begin
This QR points to this exact page. Project it on a screen. If the code doesn't appear, the URL above works too.
60-minute plan
Talking points for 101
Nine types = nine core motivations for how we see the world. We each lead with one. It's not about behavior (what you do) but why — the thing you're chasing or protecting underneath. Knowing it helps us stop taking each other's wiring personally. A mom and daughter with different types aren't doing it wrong — they're speaking different first languages.